Were you raised by a narcissist?
This essential guide will show you how to stop feeling invisible, quiet your critical inner voice, and start living life on your own terms.
Stephanie Kriesberg, PsyD writes in a uniquely clear voice, giving the impression she is speaking directly and personally to the reader. It’s as if you were in the therapy room with a kind and insightful clinician who understands what you’re feeling—even if you can’t yet put the emotions into words yourself. Beyond this empathic understanding, Dr. Kriesberg provides an abundance of sage advice. This is joined by practical ideas about how to “break out of the bubble” of being the daughter of a narcissistic mother with its attendant features of anxiety, self-blame, self-doubt, guilt, and shame. The accompanying worksheets, recorded meditations, movement, and visualizations offer further help toward this goal. Additionally, there are a myriad of resources embedded in the text that can explain concepts in more depth. With well-chosen case vignettes, no longer does one feel alone as a daughter with this brand of mother, and no longer does one feel helpless about one’s prospects for a healthy future—one that can include appropriate mothering skills, and satisfying choices in friendships, romantic partners, and career. Although the narcissistic mother may not change, the way the daughter views and deals with her can—by “cultivating a kind inner voice.” The book, then, is a blueprint of how to navigate out of a troubled childhood and into a promising present and future—no matter at what age the client begins the journey. For those who have lived with narcissistic mothers, and for the therapists who work with these daughters, this book is a gem.
Ellen Cohen, MD, psychiatrist
New England Society of Clinical Hypnosis, board member
Assistant Professor, part-time, Harvard Medical School
Stephanie Kriesberg has written a reassuring, and easy to read book about what it’s like to growup with a mother who is raising you to meet her own needs and is generally incapable ofempathy. Dr. Kriesberg describes the causes of narcissism in vivid prose. Replete with real lifeexamples, exercises, and thoughtful journaling questions, I will be sending clients and friends tothis book again and again.
Jonice Webb, Ph.D., Licensed Psychologist
Best-Selling Author of Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect
Kriesberg’s practical advice is applicable to anyone dealing with challenging parents, not just narcissists.